WWLD? (What Would Lizzo Do?)

It’s time we took some lessons from Lizzo. She’s a mood, a vibe, and a revolution that we could all learn a lot from. But just in case you’re not familiar with pop sensation Lizzo, she does it all: she sings, raps, writes her own songs, and as if that wasn’t enough, she’s a talented flutist. 

Lizzo’s real name is Melissa Viviane Jefferson.

It’s not just what she does, though – it’s how she does it. Lizzo exudes confidence, self-love, female empowerment, and body positivity. She’s everything you would want to be, and everything you hope your little sisters and daughters grow up to be. So, on the heels of the release of Lizzo’s fourth album entitled “Special”, let’s find out how we can incorporate her energy into our everyday lives to make ourselves feel more…special.

Lizzo Wants You to “Love on Yourself” 

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Lizzo has 12.8 million followers on Instagram and 2 million followers on Twitter.

While we know that not all bodies are built the same, society doesn’t always make that easy to remember. Celebrities and Instagram filters have given us false and unrealistic expectations of “perfection,” which can be detrimental to the impressionable and confident alike.  

But while social media can be a source of distress for many of us, Lizzo is known for using her social media platform to show how comfortable she is in her own skin. She doesn’t hide anything or apologize for herself because she’s not the typical size 0 celebrity. 

For example, in February 2021, Lizzo posted a video of herself in her bathroom with her hair wrapped up in a towel, wearing nothing but a sports bra and underwear. In the video, she was caressing  her belly and saying, “I started talking to my belly this year. Blowing her kisses and showering her with praises. I used to want to cut my stomach off. I hated it so much. But it’s literally ME. I am learning to radically love every part of myself. Even if it means talking to myself every morning. This is your sign to love on yourself today!” 

And on July 23, 2022, Lizzo took to Instagram again, this time wearing a backless dress with spaghetti straps, dancing around in a video captioned, “Embracing my back rolls & showing them love.” Her goal seems to be  to normalize all body shapes and sizes, and with every post she’s hopefully that much closer to achieving her goal.

Practice Body Positivity

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Body positivity is acceptance and appreciation of all body types, including one’s own.

No matter what your body size or type is, you can be like Lizzo and love the skin you’re in. It can be hard at first to reject what society, Hollywood, and social media are telling us, but you can try to embrace a more body positive outlook. How can you practice body positivity like Lizzo? Here are a few tips:

  • Use positive affirmations. Negativity breeds negativity, and conversely, positivity breeds positivity. Give yourself positive encouragement and reminders to stay in a positive mindset.
  • Remind yourself that healthy isn’t a size, it’s a lifestyle. Think about how you feel in your own skin, and appreciate and respect what your body can do for you. 
  • Stop comparing yourself to others. With all the photoshopped and filtered content out there, it’s hard not to compare yourself to others – but once you accept that things aren’t usually what they seem, you’re that much closer to ditching the comparisons.
  • Do something nice for yourself. This could be getting a manicure, getting a massage, or just taking a nap! Gifting your body something nice is a form of self-care – you deserve it!

Lizzo’s Push for Inclusivity

Lizzo is not just about loving yourself, though – she’s also on a mission to make the world a more inclusive place. As a self-proclaimed proud, plus-size woman, she saw that there was a need for inclusive shapewear for all shapes and sizes, so she has created a brand that is revolutionizing the shapewear industry called Yitty. When asked about the shapewear, she responded by saying “everyone’s size is just their size. It’s not high, it’s not low. It’s not big, it’s not small. It’s just your size.” Yitty’s sizing ranges from XS to 6X, making it inclusive of all bodies. A follower on social media wrote, “Thanks, it’s the first time I see myself represented like this.” 

In another larger-than-life way to be size inclusive, Lizzo has also executive produced a new reality show called “Lizzo’s Watch Out for the Big Grrrls”, which premiered on Amazon Prime on March 25, 2022. The show follows 13 plus-size women as they compete to become Lizzo’s backup dancers at the 2021 Bonnaroo music festival. According to Lizzo, “It was important that I changed the narrative of what a reality competition television show looks like. We don’t always have to be cruel. We can be kind, and don’t have to pit people against each other. I feel like it’s hard enough in the dance world already for girls who look like me, so why would I create that environment in my space? If I have the power to change that, why not change that?” 

In a world full of shows like The Bachelor or Love Island where toned, thin, women are prancing around in bikinis all day, Lizzo made it her mission to show and embrace plus-size bodies. And her work on changing norms seems to be slowly working. According to Lizzo, ‘“‘Body positivity,’ ‘self-love,’ and ‘love yourself,’ are very common terms now being used in the media, which was not the case over five years ago. As far as body representation, we got a long way to go, but I’m seeing the change. Big girls have always had value, but I don’t think society has seen the value in bigger bodies.”

Most people don’t have the means to start a shapewear brand, or create a new reality show to prove they want to be inclusive, but we all have the power to do it on a smaller scale. Check out a few ways you can be more inclusive in your daily life:

  • Use the right pronouns. If you’re talking to someone and unsure what pronouns to use, ask them! Asking is a great way to show you care and want to be inclusive. Another great way to do this is by adding your pronouns in your email signature. Telling someone your pronouns opens the door for someone who may be shy about declaring their pronouns first. 
  • Ask questions. This gives someone the opportunity to share their point of view and for you to learn something. Keep an open mind and chances are you’ll learn something new and maybe walk away with a new friend.
  • Call out exclusive behavior. Whether people realize it or not, exclusive behavior happens all around us. A store might not have a ramp for wheelchair access, or plus-size customers might find that stores don’t have larger sizes. Be an ally for anyone you see being excluded.

Preach Love

love neon lightsIt’s not everyday the music industry gives us a lyrical genius who can turn their mantras into  songs, and send their unique message to the world. The title song off Lizzo’s latest album, “Special”, says: 

In case nobody told you today

You’re special

In case nobody made you believe

You’re special

Well, I will always love you the same

You’re special

I’m so glad that you’re still with us

Broken, but damn, you’re still perfect (Perfect) 

What if we could all deliver this message to the loved ones, and even the strangers in our lives? There’s no reason not to, so next time you have the chance to preach acceptance, love, and inclusivity, go for it! Go out of your way to give someone a compliment, or post something encouraging on social media today. The internet has enough trolls, so do what Lizzo would do and build someone up, instead of tearing them down.

There has never been, nor will there probably ever be, another Lizzo. Her positive, loving, inclusive personality is one that is to be treasured and emulated. The next time you’re in a situation and don’t know what to do, ask yourself “What Would Lizzo Do?” She truly is special and she’s here to tell you that you are, too!

How to Make the Most of “Me Time”

Sometimes you just need a mental health day. And sometimes you get one, and then have no idea what to do with all that “me time.” So you end up feeling guilty, unproductive, and more dissatisfied than when you started. If this sounds familiar to you, then maybe it’s time to examine why you end up feeling this way, and what you can do to counteract it. Sure, “me time” can be a time to simply veg out, but if you’re finding that mental health days aren’t improving your mental health, try to figure out exactly what it is you’re feeling. Maybe you’re feeling disorganized or disconnected, and a day scrolling through Netflix or social media isn’t what you need to get back on track. Whatever it is, you can plan out ways to make the most of your “me time,” so you can be ready to tackle whatever life throws at you. 

If You’re Feeling Disorganized…

We all get that scattered feeling sometimes. It can really hit you when you’ve got down time, and are free to look around at the clutter surrounding you or obsess over all the tasks that seem to be piling up on you, and that you feel like you should be doing. If your mind is racing and jumping all over the place, and you’re trying to drown it all out with some binge watching, why not try instead:

  • Bullet journalingIf you’ve already got a bullet journal started, pull it out. If you haven’t started one, consider doing it now! This creative mix of planner and diary can be whatever you want it to be. You can choose to do anything from track your mental and physical health to plan meals, make shopping lists, and keep track of important dates. Working on your journal a little bit every day could go a long way in calming and focusing your mind.

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    Take the time to tackle some of your finances!
  • Doing some admin – Sounds fun, right? Maybe not, but it can calm you and give you a sense of accomplishment to tackle some non-intimidating aspects of your finances. Think of filing away all of those receipts and paperwork that fill up your drawers and wallet, setting some bills to auto-pay (after you pay them and check them off your list!), or even starting an easy budget with a user-friendly app. 
  • Decluttering – You don’t have to go crazy and plan for a major overhaul of your whole house, but why not find an area of your bedroom, or a corner of your closet that you can easily reorganize? Pulling out things that you no longer use and donating them to charity can feel freeing- and can make at least a small part of your world look a little tidier and less stress-inducing. 
  • Jotting it down – It might be time to get back to basics and start making some good old-fashioned to-do lists, but try using some specific techniques to make them less intimidating and more focused. Start your lists with the smallest, easiest accomplished task. Keep only one task at the top of your list at a time, and cross it off as you complete it, then move on to the next. 

If You’re Feeling Disconnected…

How is it that we can live in a world where we are constantly connected but still sometimes feel so…disconnected? Scrolling through social media is not always the best way to bring yourself closer to your community or your network, or to humanity at large. Sometimes it just leaves us feeling like we’re missing out on something, or like we’re both isolated and overwhelmed at the same time. If you’re feeling this way, try…

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Call or video chat with your friend to catch up.
  • Calling (or video chatting with) a friend – Sending a text or hopping onto social media are convenient ways to get a message across or superficially see what your friends are up to, but nothing can replace hearing the voice of someone you care about, with all of its emotional inflections. 
  • Paying for a stranger’s coffee – Sick of spending your time “liking” the posts of hordes of faraway acquaintances? One small act of random, in-person kindness is a simple way to feel an instant connection to another human – a tiny, digital thumbs up has nothing on a real smile on someone’s face. 
  • Cooking something you love and sharing it with a friend – If you enjoy cooking, it can feel like a creative and productive act, especially if you share your finished product with someone you care about. 
  • Volunteering Nothing makes you feel closer to your community than giving something back to it. There are so many ways you can give back; even if you only have a few extra hours of “me time,” you can still find an organization that would be glad of your time.

If You’re Feeling Like You Need Some (Self) Love…

Sometimes having extra time on our hands can mean extra time to criticize ourselves. A mental health day can be whatever you want it to be – but it shouldn’t devolve into that! If you’re already the type that makes to-do lists and beats yourself up if you don’t check off every single thing on it every day, or if you’re staring in the mirror and tearing yourself down, then stop and take some time out to live in the moment and just enjoy you, yourself. Try: 

  • Switching up how you get moving – If you’re the type that likes to blow off steam with crazy workouts, try slowing down with a yoga class and focus on breathing and feeling the strength of your body. If you’re more into the slow stuff, try a brisk, sweaty run and see how you feel – it might just invigorate you! back of a woman's head getting her hair cut by a pair of hands.
  • Pampering yourself – Sure, it’s cliched, but sometimes the best thing to do is to treat yourself. What does that look like for you? A mani-pedi? A new haircut and/or color? A massage? Buying something you’ve been saving up for but hesitating on? A simple ice cream cone, hopefully enjoyed with any guilt or other emotions attached to it? In fact, whatever you choose to do, surrender your senses to it and try to remove all feelings of guilt that may be attached to spending money or indulging in extra calories. 
  • Enjoying the silence – Unplug. Turn off the TV. Read a book. Rediscover your love of listening to music.
  • Resting! – That’s right, there’s nothing wrong with taking a much-needed cat nap. Curl up, get cozy, read till you fall asleep, and feel like a carefree kid again.
  • Writing – Even if you’re not the creative type, try journaling about what you’re grateful for, or the positive impacts you’ve had on other people’s lives – trust us, there’s a lot of both!

Having some extra “me time” on your hands is a gift, even if it doesn’t feel like it these days! It’s easy, though, to feel paralyzed when you find yourself faced with this gift, and to end up feeling like you missed your chance to refresh and restore. Don’t get us wrong: you don’t need to fill every moment of your life with tasks, you simply need to find ways to add a sense of calm, joy, connection, or satisfaction with yourself into your life. If that sounds like a difficult task, then start with the simple things that we have suggested – you might just be able to add the mental health back into your mental health day!

Take Time to Be Kind to Yourself Today

“Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind-” as stated by Henry James. It is important in our lives to be kind, especially to ourselves. Often we forget to stop and take care of ourselves after giving all of our time and effort into work, friends, families, and even strangers. Sometimes we think that we have to earn self-kindness after completing a task, whether it be a successful diet, finishing a work assignment, or even tidying up the house. Then we feel like we can reward ourselves, and if we fail, then we have to put in more time and effort into accomplishing.

Be kind to yourself. Invest in you.
Take the time to invest in yourself. Be kind to yourself because you deserve it. It also created more confidence.

Stop. When was the last time you complimented yourself? Treated yourself without guilt? We need to try to make a habit of investing into ourselves so we can keep giving the best version of ourselves. There are some simple techniques you can do everyday to be kind to yourself.

Self Investment

When you first wake up in the morning, read something inspiring or do something that makes you happy. Hearing words of motivation and kindness can set the tone for your day. It will allow you to learn and act on what you have learned. We continuously invest in our jobs and family that we forget to invest in ourselves. How can you give something

or someone your all when you don’t give yourself the same?

Positive Thoughts

Speak kind words about yourself. Be thankful for the things you have, write down some things you may take for granted. When times are hard, try to breed positive thoughts instead of allowing negativity to seep in. Stop and think “I’ve got this, I will be okay.” This kind of thinking will help you find an alternate perspective to situations and put a positive spin on it. It also breeds more positive thoughts about yourself, uplifting your confidence and self esteem.

Write yourself a positive note everyday, including your aspirations.
Write yourself a positive note everyday, including your aspirations. 

Don’t Beat Yourself Up

We make mistakes, we are human. Do not beat yourself up over should’ve, could’ve or would haves. Be your own supportive friend and forgive yourself, take the learning experience and move forward.


Laughter is the best medicine- we have all heard this saying, and it is true! Laughing immediately decreases stress hormones and releases endorphins that makes the body feel good. Take a break and laugh with some friends. Find a way to destress from the stressors of life.

It can be easy to get caught up in the negativity around, or even get stuck in a negative thought and allow it to keep replaying in your head. Learning to stop this is important, because you have the choice to. You have the choice to move on and change the future. You are in control of your future and what you want for yourself. Life is hard as it is so ease up on yourself, because you deserve self love.