Your Guide to the Adult Toys You REALLY Want for Christmas

Ho ho ho! Here comes Santa Claus again, with toys in his sack for all the good boys and girls… and maybe he’s also got some stashed away in there for the naughty boys and girls, as well. Yup, we’re talking about the adult toys you and your partner really want for Christmas! But if you’re curious about giving some new sex toys a whirl, but not sure what’s right for you, we’ve got a guide that’ll get you started doing some gifting to the naughtiest on your list – or to yourself! After all, pleasure is all about giving AND receiving! So without any more teasing, let’s get down to business.

Your Sexiest Holiday Gift List

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With the long winter stretching out ahead of us, we all could use something to heat things up, right? And remember, you don’t HAVE TO give these beauties away – you are so worth a steamy present of self love! Remember, masturbation is good for you! For example, if you’re a woman, it doesn’t just get you off, it also helps boost your immune system, strengthen your pelvic muscles, and promote body positivity. So whatever your gender, and whether you’re partnered or not, what might blow your stockings off in the coming year?

A real crowd pleaser

Looking for a vibrator for yourself or your gal? May we suggest th

e Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation? Available from Adam and Eve, this vibrator has been bought by over half a million satisfied customers, and raved about in Cosmopolitan. It has it all: it’s waterproof, it offers optional puffs of air to simulate the sensations of oral sex, has 11 fun settings, and is even rechargeable, so the fun never has to end with a hunt for fresh batteries! Anyone would love to get this in their stocking!

Looking to class things up?

While sex toys have gotten a lot sleeker and more pleasing to the eye these days, you probably wouldn’t want to wear them out of the house, right? Well, the Crave Vesper Vibrator Necklace changes all that! This statement necklace, which comes in rose gold, gold, and silver, is also a mini vibrator, so you can look good at dinner with your squeeze, and then have some extra fun for dessert.

Cheeky fun for everyone

Kind of into the idea of letting your partner take control? Try the LOVENSE Lush 3 Bullet Vibrator, a toy that your partner can control remotely. Yup, you read that right: you’ll finally WANT to give your partner the remote control!

Lots of bang for your bucksexy advent calendar

On the twelfth day of Christmas, my true love gave to me…some mind-blowing sexy time! Looking for something more holiday-themed, that’ll keep you trying new things all season long? Try the Lovehoney Sweet Seduction 12-Day Couple’s Advent Calendar, and see what you can get into, other than Christmas cookies, as you experiment with 12 new and different toys for your 12 sexy days of Christmas. Truly, a lot of bang for your buck.

A little boost

Want just a little something extra in the bedroom (or under the tree)? Try the Dame Eva II, a toy that stays in place (thanks to its little wings that tuck under you or your partner’s labia) as you have intercourse. It’s quiet, but mighty.

Celebrate cuffing season

Want to actually cuff your honey? It might be fun to experiment with a little bit of restraint, but only if everyone is totally on board and comfortable with it, of course. If you are feeling a little naughty, take a look at the Bijoux Indiscrets MAZE Wide Handcuffs, which can be comfier thanks to the wide cuffs. Plus, they just look good. 

Roll the dice

OK, so getting your partner in bed might be a sure thing, and not much of a gamble, but that doesn’t mean you can’t up the ante. Try Dalliance’s Sex Dice, a grown-up way to bring some more fun and games into your bedroom. With 12-sided, six-sided, and 10-sided options, there are different positions, directions, and locations to explore – all left up to chance.

Use the backdoor

Curious about anal play? You can start by giving anal beads a try, like Lovers Anal Pop Booty Beads. According to  Marla Renee Stewart, MA, sexpert for adult wellness brand and retailer Lovers, “If you’re a beginner wanting to rev up anal play, but want to do something different, this is your chance. Place these beads in your anus for some titillating foreplay, and if you’re partnered, have your lover give you oral sex. Right when you’re about to orgasm, tug on the beads and pull them out for an incredible elongated varied orgasm.” 

You might also want to try a prostate massager to get things explosive, like the Lelo Billy 2.

Go full techie

The We-Vibe Moxie takes the remote control sex toy to a whole new level. You can control it via app, and even includes a video chat feature to really spice things up for visual lovers who can’t be home for the holidays. 

Something for the sensual

You don’t have to fill your lover’s stocking with toys alone. Try something to go with those massagers, like a massage candle. The Earthly Body Soy Candle High Tide, for example, is a body-safe soy candle that you light to get an atmosphere going, then pour on your partner for a sensual massage once it’s all warm and melted – as your partner will be! 

All thrills and no frills

If you want to try a rabbit vibrator, check out the Better Love Rabbit Lily Vibrator, a toy with vibrating ears for teasing both sweet spots. You can use it solo or with a partner, bringing more intensity to your bedroom sexcapades. Bonus: it’s a great deal!

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If you haven’t brought penis rings into your sex life, now is the time! Even the simplest can aid in harder, longer-lasting erections, but you don’t have to go simple! There are some pretty exciting ones on the market, like the Lovehoney Bionic Bullet 5 Function Vibrating Rabbit Cock Ring, which stretches to fit most sizes and has five vibrating levels to enhance sex for both partners. If you’re looking for something a little simpler, and less imposing, but still lovely and vibrate-y, check out the Halo by Bellesa.

The real thing

For those who appreciate realism in their sex toys, look beyond all those crazy dildos and check out the King Cock Extra Girthy Ultra Realistic Suction Cup Dildo. Even better than the real thing?  

And don’t forget…

To keep things running smoothly, don’t forget the lubricant! And since it’s a special time of year, treat yourself to a fancy schmancy lube experience with one from Isabel Fay – they’re water-based and all-natural, and pair well with solo or partner play.

As we said at the beginning, the holiday season and pleasure have one big thing in common – both are all about giving AND receiving. And we’ll also say again, that there should be a healthy dose of niceness and naughtiness involved! So make your list and check it twice (using our handy guide), grab your favorite elf, and deck those halls – and let us know what’s on YOUR list this year!

Co-written by Joanna Bowling

The True Meaning Behind ‘Cuffing’ Season

Tradition tells us that spring is the time for love, right? All those warm breezes and flowers bursting to life – it’s enough to get anyone in the mood. But what about winter, with its long, cold, dark nights? Surely that’s when you need comfort (and somebody warm beside you) the most! That’s why there are lots of people out there looking to turn a hook-up into someone they can “cuff” for the hibernating season. But if you’re getting involved in cuffing up this winter, what might you be waking up to when the spring thaw comes? 

What Is Cuffing?

One-night stands, long-term relationships, friends with benefits – it’s pretty clear what these set-ups are, even if the emotions involved in them sometimes aren’t! But what does it mean if you’re looking to cuff someone, or if you find yourself all cuffed up? Well, the term itself comes from handcuffing someone or tying yourself down to that one person as a way to keep the cold and loneliness of winter at bay, even if you wouldn’t ordinarily be interested in a long-term commitment, either with that person or in general. 

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The cuffing zone is somewhere between an actual long-term relationship and a friends with benefits situation.

That means the cuffing zone seems to occupy a space somewhere between an actual long-term relationship and a friends with benefits situation. You might not be seeing anyone else, but there are certain expectations that might be missing from your arrangement, and the person you’re cuffed to might not even be someone you’d normally think of settling down with. 

These relationships are usually pretty short-term, as well; most people acknowledge that the “cuffing season” starts in October or November, with most couples starting to snap out of it by the time the more mushy romantic stuff surrounding Valentine’s Day has them rethinking things. That’s not to say that a cuff will never turn into a more serious relationship, but most don’t look like your typical long-term partnering, so you’ve got to go into it with your eyes open.

Why Get All Cuffed Up?

Well, why get into any relationship at all, right? Ok, maybe that’s a little unhelpful, so let’s look at why you might want to be tied to someone temporarily when you don’t really have a strong desire to be committed to them (or even to anyone). The answer really does seem to lie in the seasonal nature of it: we’re just naturally looking for comfort and connection, both physical and emotional, at this time of year. And, to be honest, jumping right into the cozy part of a relationship can seem pretty appealing as the potential for outdoor fun disappears!

According to certified sex therapist Holly Richmond, Ph.D., LMFT, CST, “The emotional side is we’ve got the holidays […] where people go home to their families, and some single people feel lonely or different or sad about not being coupled up. The physical side, I think, is more of an evolutionary biology piece. We’re pack animals, and in the winter months, we had to spend time together literally for warmth.”

Are They (or You!) A Cuff?

Now that we’re fully into cuffing season, you might just be falling prey to your natural instincts and biological urges (not to say that can’t be fun…) to keep warm and stave off seasonal depression – remember, seasonal affective disorder is a thing, after all. That means it’s time to take a good look at your winter crush or fling and figure out what’s really going on, so you know what you’re getting into, and so you can both get on the same page. You’re probably cuffed up (or your potential winter mate is probably looking to cuff) if:

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  • You or they are not concerned about long-term compatibility. If you’ve got mismatched goals for the future, but it’s no big deal, you’re probably not going to be their plus one at any summer weddings.
  • You spend time together, but you and/or they are not interested in defining the relationship. Like we said, a cuffing situation can feel like a weird limbo between a casual and serious relationship, so you’re probably not meeting each other’s family, but you might be the only one for each other – for now.
  • You’re probably not heading out on a lot of dates. If you’re dating life mostly consists of Netflix and takeout, you’re probably just getting into hibernation mode with each other.
  • They might do a lot of hinting that they are looking to cuff, even saying things like they hate being alone on New Years or that they’re relieved they have a date for their holiday parties.
  • Some things about the relationship are just not quite “right.” For example, there might be some on-and-off ghosting, the connection might feel purely physical, the sex might only feel “good enough” for now, or you or your partner might be acting in emotionally unavailable ways. 

Some or all of the above starting to sound very familiar? Well, you might have been cuffed, or you might be on the hunt to do some cuffing, which is totally fine if that’s what you’re into! But you might want to keep a few things in mind this season.

Keeping Your Head During Cuffing Season

Again, we want to make it perfectly clear that there is absolutely nothing wrong with cuffing – hey, whatever gets you through the winter! You could end up spending a lovely season with someone and looking back on those long months with fondness as you move on, or you could even end up with someone you want to spend time with even when the snow melts – who knows? But what is clear is that you need to make sure you’re making healthy choices for yourself, so keep these things in mind if you find yourself on the hunt or being hunted this cuffing season:black and white picture of a woman with her hand on her chin thinking

  • Know what you want – Before you decide whether cuffing season is worth your time, and you start swiping up a storm on those dating apps, be honest with yourself about what you want and whether a temporary relationship will fulfill your needs. 
  • Communication is key – Anytime you add two human beings into a situation, there’s the potential for hurt feelings, so make sure you both know what page you’re on. You also need to know how to set boundaries (even if it’s something as simple as knowing whether giving gifts to each other is cool or not), and be open about how open you actually want to be. Tell them what you’re looking for, and if the other person says they’re not looking for anything serious, listen to them and take what they say at face value! 
  • Keep your standards – You might be feeling that winter itch, but don’t rush into anything, and don’t feel pressured by anyone else to have dates for holiday events – don’t end up acting out a relationship you’re not actually in! Dating out of loneliness or boredom could end up leading to unhealthy relationships, so you might be better off spending time with friends or family instead of hastily picking the wrong person to give your time to. And remember, always, always be safe when it comes to sex!
  • Be in the moment! – Don’t worry what the calendar says, and don’t worry what anyone else says about your relationship – if it’s right for you at that time, enjoy it for what it is. If you do find yourself catching feelings, and that’s not what you want, or you feel like your cuffing partner won’t be down to take things further, that’s when it’s time to reassess. 

The bottom line is that cuffing can be just the thing to get you through these long winter nights, as they stretch into long winter months. As with anything in life, though, go into it with open eyes, be present, know what you want – and then be safe, and honest with yourself and the person who’s warming you up on the couch. And if you find yourself dreaming together and getting eager to introduce each other to mom, well, you might be more than just cuffed, so watch out!