Anal Sex: How To Go From Pain To Pleasure

So the time has come, the anal sex talk with your partner. Don’t panic, everyone dabbles with the idea of it. Anal sex has become a hot topic lately, and when you think about it, well it may hurt. Some people love it, and get a lot of stimulation and orgasms from it, while others can not imagine the act. If you are one of those people who are considering taking the plunge, then there are ways to handle it with care. It can be painful at first, but end up being

Anal sex can be very orgasmic, as long as you take your time.
Anal sex can be very orgasmic, as long as you take your time.

very satisfying. There are thousands of sensitive nerve endings around your anus that can give you pleasure. It can be fun, as long as you are up for it. First let’s learn how to properly prepare for anal sex.

Prepare Mentally

Just the thought of anal sex can be mentally exhausting and terrifying for some people. If you are one of these people, take some time to relax. Anal sex is not the same as vaginal sex, so take some time to relax before it happens. Take a relaxing bath and do whatever you have to do so you can prepare yourself.

Try It Out By Yourself/ Use Toys First

Before perfroming anal sex with your partner, it is important to start small. You can explore how it feels with fingers, or even toys such as a butt plug. Glide the toy around the opening and feel the sensation it provides. Foreplay with the anus during vaginal sex can feel good, and can be a great segway.

Lube Up!

This is probably the MOST important part of anal sex. A water-based lube will help with rubbing, massaging, and insertion into the anus. Water-based makes the experience more slippery than the other stuff that gunks up. The slippier, the better. Your butt is not as self-lubricating as your vagina is, so make sure you have plenty of lube, because you will use it in the beginning, and continue to use it throughout. Lube will make everything feel better, less painful, and safer for you.

Clean Up Beforehand

A lot of people’s first thought of anal sex is that it is dirty. Many think anal sex will end up messy. In order to prepare, take a shower or bath and make sure you clean up as much as possible. Use a towel underneath you, not because any stool will go everywhere, even though you may think that. The towel is more for all the lubricant you use so it does not get everywhere. Try not to eat anything that will upset your stomach beforehand. That will not make it a very good experience.

Start slow! Do not rush or jam anything in, or it will hurt really bad.
Start slow! Do not rush or jam anything in, or it will hurt really bad. Use lube and go slow and steady.


Never ever try to shove anything in, or attempt go fast. Try to relax and not tense up your muscles, because it will only cause pain. Start slow and penetrate slowly, that way it is less painful and you can get used to the feeling. Once you are used to it, and your muscles are relaxed, then consider going more little by little. Listen to your body and make sure you are comfortable with it. It is not a race, but rather to take your time and enjoy it as much as you can.

Positions That Help

When you think of anal sex, doggy position is probably your first thought for easy insertion. This is not the only way to have anal sex, and for your first time, it is not the best. Your partner can not see your face and gauge how you are feeling. There are other positions you can try, such as sitting on your partner’s lap, or spooning. Most experts actually recommend laying on your side and spooning for your first time. Move around and try different positions until you find one that makes you feel the best.

Make sure to keep an open communication with your partner about how you feel before sex, during, and after. Communicating can make a difference with the experience, and help you feel more at ease. Work together to make the whole experience a positive one, that hopefully feels good, and even better in time.

Better With Age: How Seniors Are Spicing Up Sex!

As you age and your body changes, your sex life does as well. This does not mean that your sex life is no longer existent. A senior can still have a satisfying, healthy, and exciting sex life. Not only does it feel good, but it also has many health benefits such as a happier well being, sleeping better, and an improved self-esteem. Sex is an important aspect of life and

A healthy sex life is important, even as you get older. It makes your relationship stronger, and makes you happier.
A healthy sex life is important, even as you get older. It makes your relationship stronger, and makes you happier.

relationships. Just because you get older, does not mean sex will not be just as exciting and pleasurable. Find out some advice, toys, and different positions to try for more fun and pleasurable sex for both you and your partner.


As a woman ages, the natural lubrication your body produces decreases. Not to worry, you can purchase some water-based lubricant to apply. Water-based lubricants are usually made from aloe vera gel. They are gentle on the skin, safer, and slippery. This will help sex feel more pleasurable without worrying about any pain.

Different Positions

Bored from the same positions, or same places you have sex? Change it up! Experiment with different positions and places. Sex can be more difficult or slightly painful as you age because of arthritis and joint pain. But there are positions worth trying that can feel good without too much pressure on joint pain, and are different than your normal positions. Spooning sex is perfect for people with back and hip issues, bringing relief in more than one way. Standing sex can ease back and knee pain. Your partner can sit in a chair with you on top for deeper penetration that is satisfying for both parties. Not only can you try these different positions, but make things more exciting by doing it in different places. Get out of the bedroom and get feisty in other places. Sex after 60 can be exciting, just keep an open mind and try different things.

Experiment With Toys

Toys are fun, can aid in orgasms, and a healthier sex life. The use of sex toys are not just for young couples. You do not have to retire using them, just because you retired. Toys such as vibrators, cock rings, and anal beads will build different levels of arousal and stimulation. Cock rings can keep an erection going for longer, while providing extra stimulation for the woman. Do not be shy or feel guilty to invite toys into your bedroom. Toys can help you feel more aroused, stimulate, and assist with orgasms.

It is important to release any expectations of the world, and have fun.
It is important to forget any preconceived notions about sex and old age, and have fun. Enjoy your body together, and explore.

Remove All Expectations

Today’s culture puts a lot of pressure on women and men to look a certain way. As people age, especially women, feeling sexually attractive slowly diminishes. Free yourself and your partner from all the assumptions on what is considered desirable, how you should look, feel, or the sexual expectations. Have fun with each other and discover what feels good, without the pressure of society. Your body is beautiful and desirable no matter what your age.


No one knows your body, and what feels good better than you. Consider masturbation with your partner, because it can be fun and pleasing. Watching each other masturbate can bring on an erotic and closer feeling. It can help your partner feel more aroused, and end in better, stimulating sex.

Period Sex, The Real Cure

Period sex. The first thought that pops into a lot of women’s heads is “gross,” and it is off-limits. There are a lot of reasons women think period sex is off limits. You may not feel comfortable being intimate while you are bleeding and you might feel unclean. Some women may feel unattractive during their period. At the end of the day, it is a personal choice whether you choose to have period sex between you and your partner. But did you know that having period sex has a lot of benefits for you? As long as you can get comfortable with the idea, then you can decide if it is right for you. 

Having sex while on your period helps contract your uterus muscles, relieving cramp pains.
Having sex while on your period helps contract your uterus muscles, relieving cramp pains.

Relieve Menstrual Cramps

During an orgasm, your pelvic muscles contract and release. When it releases, it alleviates the pain that you get during your period. After an orgasm your body releases oxytocin and dopamine, the feel good endorphins that can ease any pains you have, including headaches. So you can say goodbye to those nasty cramps and hello to the big “O.” Thats a win-win.

Shorten Your Period Length

Yes you read it right, shorter periods! Yes please! The muscles that contract during an orgasm push out the blood and uterine lining faster. It speeds up the process of getting rid of everything out, which means a shorter period.

No Need For Lubricate

When you are on your period, the blood acts as a natural lubricant. So if you want to try it, just know you can leave the lube in the drawer.

Higher Sex Drive

Ever feel like you are extra horny right around the time of your period? There’s a reason for that. Hormones take a big role in it, and the fact that your blood flow is increased to your pelvic area. The pelvic area gets swollen making you more aroused, sensitive, and crave sex more. Why not indulge?

Just Remember….

You can still get pregnant while on your period. It is a very slim chance, but it is still possible. Take the necessary precautions while having sex in order to avoid any issues like pregnancy and STDs. You can also still contract STDs while having sex with your period. Make sure you are protected.

Period sex has many benefits, but can be messy.
Period sex has many benefits, but can be messy. Take precautions for an easy clean up.

The biggest downside to period sex is the mess. If you choose to have sex while you have your period, consider using a towel underneath so the clean up is easy. You can also either hop in the shower after, or keep a washcloth nearby. Having sex where blood is gushing out of you may sound gross, but there are so many benefits to consider. The reality of it is that you might just like it! Once you get past the fact that it is blood and let yourself go, you will enjoy it, and so might your partner. Talk with your partner, and make sure everyone is on board, and if so, go for it!